Don't Ask Lady For Permission.

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The guys who get what they want with women aren't asking for permission. And women don't want them to ask for it, either.

Hey guys, welcome back!

In this article we’re going to explore the question of whether or not guys should ask girls for permission regarding what they’re allowed to do.

We’ll start by touching on how girls view and treat sexy guys (i.e., you after lots of self-improvement).

Then we’ll do an exercise in future projection (if you’re not there already) where I will invite you to imagine how a man with a strong frame would deal with the most sexually attractive women... were he in the process of seducing them into his boudoir.

We’ll touch on the importance of setting sexual frames as soon as possible.

And finally we’ll talk about how you can pretty much do anything you want with a girl, sexually speaking, without needing to directly ask her for permission -- provided you read her correctly and present yourself congruently.

(that last bit is important. You must be able to read women appropriately

 

How Girls View (and Treat) Sexy Guys

There is an old adage that goes: “girls are like sausages: they taste nice, just don’t watch them getting ready”.

Granted, some hotter girls will have to make minimal adjustments to themselves before appearing in public and stopping traffic. Nevertheless, girls do tend to invest heavily by way of time in choosing which clothes to wear, in order to appear stylish and turn heads down the street.

Now this adage is applicable to how girls view and treat sexy guys:

A girl cannot fathom that the smooth Don Juan who came to talk to her during the day and swept her off her feet was once a struggling World of Warcraft-obsessed incel shut in his dungeon with baby wipes for fapping and coke bottles for pissing into, plus Domino’s pizza and other assorted junk food box stacks.

And mostly, they won’t want to know too much detail about how you became who you are, and who you were before, because when you appear before them after years of self-improvement, they immediately assume that you were always like this – that you’ve been an “alpha” or a “natural” your whole life. Even if they appear interested, it’s best to downplay your achievements, as Chase wisely counselled in one of his articles. It does keep an air of mystique about one, which doesn’t hurt.

Girls view you as sexy from an emotional position. They feel you are a powerful man due to the strength of your frame. The reasoning you have to back up your frame is secondary.

It is secondary the same way the words and content of sex talk is secondary to the emotion you convey as you deliver it; i.e., you can talk about sex yet leave her pussy desert-dry if you don’t know how to manage, manifest, and amplify sexual tension.

 

Rock-Solid Frames: Being Unreactive and Mildly Self-Deprecating

One of the keys to success in this game is the solidity of your frame.

Holding a rock-solid frame will eventually seduce most girls. That's because frame strength is an indicator of your power – the strength of your reality. If your reality is stronger than hers, you overpower her. This means submission on her part.

A man with a strong frame doesn’t get offended by a woman’s frame tests. He’ll be happy to downplay his abilities and even joke with himself. I know seducers who force a girl to frame test them a lot upfront so that they can speed their seductions along. Passing a girl’s frame tests turns her on.

Additionally, being slightly self-deprecating in a jocular way will send her mixed signals, as she won’t quite get you: “This guy came up to me, and he’s confident – so hot –; the fact that he’s talking to me means he’s hitting on me – but, then, why is he saying he has a small penis?” she’ll think.

 

Arriving at a Strong Frame: The Knight's Quest and the Damsel

Now, in order to pass a girl’s frame tests you usually have to be genuinely, to your core, unreactive to them. You have to believe that you are better than this girl. Deep down, no matter how impressive she may be, looks or otherwise, you have to believe yourself to be superior or at the very least on her level.

This doesn’t happen overnight.

Strengthening one's fame is a bit like the knight in shining armor who must best various challenges, until he reaches the keep guarded by the great dragon, whom he must vanquish, before arriving at the high tower with the pale-faced fair-haired svelte princess awaiting him.

These “challenges” are your path to mastery. This journey, this process, and your gradual triumphs, are where you gain your inner confidence. Think of it as your trials and tribulations in the search for the sex life you truly desire.

This involves:

• Cold or warm approaching hot girls
• Putting yourself out there
• Getting rejected
• Learning from your mistakes
• Repeating the process all over again (with hotter and hotter girls)

These are hard-fought victories. And what you fought hard to conquer; you don’t easily relinquish. Easy come, easy go. Hard-fought won, don’t let go.

 

Future Projection: The Most Seductive Version of You

Let’s say you’ve gone through the journey and now have a stronger sense of identity. These college floozies brimming full of Instagram-confidence in themselves and a little narcissism, to use a Denzel Washington turn of phrase from Training Day, “Ain’t got shit on you!”

You want to catch one of these chicks, you won't do it as a sheep.

So, you don’t worry about how they’ll react to you. They can either take you or leave you. You’ve tried and failed many times. But you’ve also enjoyed rewarding successes. Desirable women have given you plenty of compliments. They’ve screamed your name in ecstasy, wet your bedsheets. You’ve had attractive girls become sexually addicted to you. Girls who came to your apartment just for sex.

You’re confident, dominant, suave, you give off a sexual vibe, you speak with a low bass voice, slowly, you have strong eye contact, good posture and body language. You can see what I mean by watching movies with masculine role-models like Sean Connery in the early Bonds, pretty much any movie with Marlon Brando or John Wayne, to name just three.

Do you think you’ll need to ask a girl where she wants to go on the instant date you’re taking her on as opposed to telling her: “There’s this cool kiosk where they sell tasty liqueurs; let’s go buy one then sip it as we sit by the riverside.” Or whether she wants to have a drink with you (if you meet her out at night on the street) as opposed to telling her “let’s go get a drink” or even simply “follow me” or gesticulating with your finger for her to follow you somewhere.

In the same way you won’t be trying to get her to verbally agree to every little thing you’re leading her on (the experience which is a part of who you are) you won’t be – and this is where we get into contentious, but sadly true, territory – seeking her verbal consent to other things you’ll be doing to her later on.

If you were to ask a girl for permission to sit next to her, kiss her, hug her, place your hand on her leg, rub her leg, grab her ass, smack her ass, caress her hand, caress her arm, get physically close to her, bring her home, escalate on her at your apartment, take off her clothes, finger her, grab her breasts and pinch her nipples, have her suck your dick, and then fuck her – do you think you’d be able to do half of these things?

Do you think women prefer a man who asks her for permission to cum on her face, or a man who simply cums on her face? Would a woman consent to rough sex beforehand verbally, or would she rather you simply fuck her well without waiting for her permission?

 

You “Don't Count” (You're Secret Society): Permission Granted

In order for a woman to allow you to do whatever you want to do to her, it has to appear like this has always been the case.

“Oh okay, he’s the type who smacks a sexy girl’s ass” she’ll think.

For proof, she’ll look at your expression, body language, voice tone, and so on, after you’ve done whatever you’ve done, to confer if you’re relaxed after having done it.

You become the guy who’s an exception to whatever mantra (i.e., “I'm not like that”) she repeats to ward off social pressure and keep her reputation “within what’s acceptable.”

A girl will never give you permission to do something which she perceives you aren’t allowed to do already. Something you haven’t allowed yourself to do already. Something society hasn’t accepted you’re the kind of guy to be allowed to do it.

If you have to ask, you’re not in the know. These are areas which lie beyond the mainstream. Beyond what all the would-be ethical and moral “guardian” chatterboxes (some might call them prudes) would allow.

Only a man who has taken full responsibility for creating his own reality, as opposed to living someone else’s life (be it what his parents told him to do, what his schoolteachers told him to do, what his parish priest told him to do, what his job counsellors advised him to do, etc.) is in a position to do what he truly feels, to be more completely, than what’s deemed “acceptable” in polite society.

 

She Will Adapt to You: Set Sexual Frames Early

Woman and her cousin, the chameleon

Girls are like chameleons.

They will treat two guys completely differently, and there is no cognitive dissonance when they do it. They’ll become whoever it is they think you want them to be. Ultimately, you’re the arbiter. She mirrors your vibe back to you; she acts how she feels you’d see her best.

This means that if you look preppy and don’t make an effort to add edgy touches to the way you present yourself. If you don’t have bad/fuckboy features, be they:

• Teasing/cocky-funny humor

• Presenting yourself like a romance novel hero

• Pussy-crushing accessories to your wardrobe

• THAT eye contact

But, most importantly, if you don’t move fast in the seduction, she’ll act like she’s a virgin – when she loves sex – and either withhold sex indefinitely, or treat you as her emotional tampon, while feeling validated by your fumbled attempts to smash.

If she does put out, she’ll be all vanilla, won’t let you put it in her ass, won’t let you spank her, won’t let you tie her up, won’t let you choke her, etc. These things, she’ll surmise, would make her “look slutty” in your eyes.

You see, if you don’t provide her with sexual frames on the “first date” – if, for example, when you go meet her, you haven’t attempted to avoid a first date and instead bring her straight to your place with the excuse that you left your jacket at home – she will assume you are a relationship guy. Girls default to “beta” morality in order to safeguard their reputations. You must enlighten them, or be treated like all the other guys.

However, if you do present yourself with just enough edge that she can tell you’re the kind of guy who can go get another one just like her in the click of a finger, then she’ll be yours to do with as you please. By setting the correct sexual frames.

And then there is a sort of unspoken dialogue, which is the tacit agreement that you know what girls like, and you give it to them, without them having to take responsibility. You see, girls don’t like to remember that they asked you to cum on their face or that they didn’t resist your advances, or that she had anything to do with you tying her up, getting your flogger out and having your way with her. Unless they’re extremely sexually liberated, that is.

She’d rather you did these things to her of your own initiative. Of course, you can bring the topic up to set the frame. Talk about BDSM or the movie 50 Shades of Grey and see how she reacts. This is kind of like escalating physically – placing your hand on her leg, for example. You’re trying things out, “testing the waters,” to see how she reacts, following your intuition.

That’s not the same as asking her for her permission to do these things to her.

 

Conclusion

You will never know the things you are capable of doing, the endless multiverse of the female sexual instinct, if you go about your dealings with women by asking them for permission every step of the way. The sheer extent of what you can get away with is unknown to the timid man.

You have to change first though. Because women can sense your views about sexuality, and these only morph into the correct non-judgmental ones with experience. If they sense you’re cynical or bitter, they’ll keep their guards up and won’t reveal their inner animal to you.

And what a pity that would be.

Frankie